[Video] An Abuse Prevention Expert Prepares Parents for Summer

On Monday June 26, JCW hosted renowned child safety expert Pattie Fitzgerald for a special Facebook Live seminar. Pattie delivered one hour of invaluable tips for parents preparing to send their children to camp. Watch a replay here and find more safety resources on Pattie’s website, sefelyeverafter.com

Shavuos Message from JCW

Ahavas Yisrael is a central theme of the Shavuos story. In the most dramatic event in the Jewish tradition, the entire Jewish people gather around Mount Sinai as they received the Torah. There’s a well-known textual nuance – it says that the “people camped around the mountain” in the singular – a sign that the […]

Yom Tefilla Announced To Fight Technology; Silence Still Deafening On Sexual Abuse

Written By Asher Lovy Apparently, the Moetzes Gedolei Yisrael of Israel have called for a “Day of Tefilos” to raise awareness about the spiritual problems technology posed by technology. As a community, we’ve become accustomed to these mass displays of piety, and international calls for prayer in hopes of inspiring a generation, and perhaps some divine assistance, […]

הגוף שלי נברא בצלם אלוקים

My body was created in the image of God. My body was pure. My body was good, all of it was good. But suddenly he came in to my life. And he touched my body that belonged  to me! My body doesn’t feel pure anymore. My body isn’t what it used to be. It was […]

I didn’t want – לא רציתי

English Below לא רציתי את החיוך שלו. לא רציתי את העוגיות שלו. לא רציתי שהזכרונות ישארו. לא רציתי אותו בחיים שלי. בכלל. לא אהבתי את העיניים שלו, לא אהבתי ללכת לדירה שלו. לא אהבתי את תשומת הלב המיוחד שלו. לא אהבתי אותו. בכלל. שנאתי כשהוריד את הבגדים שלי. שנאתי שנגע בגוף הטהור שלי. שנאתי את […]

THIS is an abuse survivor’s number one fear

I have previously expounded on the some of the guilt and shame that accompanies survivors of child sexual abuse. I want to share a little more about how untreated shame and guilt can progress to the point where substance abuse and/or suicide seems like the only answer for survivors. One morning, when I was in […]

Here’s how I took back control after I was abused

Having survived sexual abuse at the age of 12, I can only describe the secrets that followed as lugging around a gut-wrenching 100-pound object everywhere I went.. It was the invisible elephant in the room no matter where I ran. My attitude was that I did not choose this life nor did I want it—I […]

Purim Safety Guidelines from Jewish Community Watch

Purim is a really fun time for kids and adults alike, and it means lots of visiting family and friends! It’s important to keep in mind that 95% of abuse occurs at the hands of someone well known to the child, which makes it so important to stay educated and proactive while avoiding unnecessary panic […]

Rambam on Sexual Perversion

Rambam: Hilchos Yesodai HaTorah 5:7   ומנין שאפילו במקום סכנת נפשות אין עוברין על אחת משלש עבירות אלו שנאמר ואהבת את ה’ אלהיך בכל לבבך ובכל נפשך ובכל מאודך אפילו הוא נוטל את נפשך והריגת נפש מישראל לרפאות נפש אחרת או להציל אדם מיד אנס דבר שהדעת נוטה לו הוא שאין מאבדין נפש מפני נפש ועריות […]

I want to talk about the pain

I want to talk about the pain. It comes back now and it’s just as intense and as stabbing as it was then. It is amazing how imaginary pain can feel so real. But it isn’t the imaginary pain I want to talk about. I think that will disappear when I can finally deal with […]

Words of advice from one survivor to another

Last month JCW Israel finished its first women’s survivors support group in Jerusalem. At the end of the group we asked the amazing participants to share their words of wisdom and advice to survivors.   Here is the last of a series essays we have shared over the past month. *** PLEASE don’t ever judge […]

We are survivors of the night

I put on my pajama pants. Tie the draw strings real tight. I then put on my second pair. Tie the draw strings real tight. Again, I put on my third pair. Tie the draw strings real tight. Next, I move my dresser and chair to barricade my bedroom door. Lastly, I wrap my blanket […]

You Will Be OK

Last month JCW Israel finished it’s first women’s survivors support group in Jerusalem. At the end of the group we asked the amazing participants to share their words of wisdom and advice to survivors who are early on in their journey of healing, a place very familiar to every one of them from not that […]

Am I putting my son in danger?

By Pattie Fitzgerald,  child safety educator, founder of www.safelyeverafter.com and prevention education adviser to JCW. When our kids are very young, it’s often easier to control who they play with and what they’re doing.  As they grow up, we often question when to let go or what types of relationships are safe or healthy.  A […]

“Is Silence Always Golden?” – Reflections on the Maklev Case

By Rabbi Ron Yitzchok Eisenman. I am very hesitant to write what I am about to say. There is no doubt that some will feel that ‘sweeping the dirt under the rug’ is the best policy. And there are those who will question my decision to write by claiming, “Why discuss uncomfortable issues? Those who […]

Daddy, I hate you and I hate that I hate you!

You can’t be who I want you to be. No matter what I tell myself, no matter what I try so hard to believe, no matter what I see or don’t see, you can’t be the daddy of my dreams. You can’t be the man who comforts me in the middle of the night when […]

I’m a survivor: on pesach, redemption is what I need

It’s 2015 and I was sitting at the seder table, Hearing the story of my ancestors being freed, I began to cry in silence, Because redemption is what I need. The Jews in Egypt went through hell, Burying each other because it was too much to survive, I think of days I am falling apart, […]

Preventing Abuse in Jewish Organizations that Serve Youth: Ten Policies to Create Safer Environments

By Shira M. Berkovits It is critical for leaders of youth-serving organizations (YSOs) to adopt child-protection policies proactively, before they are faced with a problem. Policies clarify acceptable and unacceptable behaviors that guide adults to model safe interactions with children. When a policy is well communicated, it becomes integral to institutional culture and its violations […]

The scars of my past

By Bracha Braun Summer is coming. It’s a time when I always get stares for the scars of my past. People cannot understand why someone would want to physically harm themselves and I understand that there’s not even a way for me to explain it because you’ve had to have gone through something that made […]

Seeing You In An Orange Jumpsuit

Seeing you in orange is the last image in my head Replacing the ones where you control my life instead Keeping me silent for over a decade and then some Holding me hostage to the fear, all numb Well I’m not a bad person for outing you You are cruel for having done what you […]