I will not forgive you! Yom Kippur reflections

It’s the night before Yom Kippur and while everyone else is asking and granting mechilah I know that there will be one exception. I know that you will not ask me forgiveness. Why should you? You did “nothing wrong”. In your words that I will never ever forget “It’s all my dark reinterpitation of our […]

A Letter to My Abuser

To my abuser, What can I say to you, who has taken so much from me? Where do I start when it has taken me thirty years to finally acknowledge what you did to me? My heart has started to pound as I write these words. That is how much of a hold the abuse […]

Child Sexual Offenders: How they select, manipulate and groom their victims

(The photo is Illustrative and not related to the story ) By David M. Buckley, Senior Instructor, John E. Reid & Associates It is difficult to develop a universal classification or list of characteristics that will consistently identify a child sexual offender. Child molesters are masters at presenting a facade that makes them indistinguishable from […]

Good Touch.. Bad Touch.. – מגע טוב.. מגע רע

 מגע טוב.. מגע רע אני מבולבלת. המגע הטוב והטבעי הפך להיות מפחיד ורע. הוא הפך טוב לרע, ורע לטוב. איך מגע טוב יכול להרגיש רע? איך מגע איום ורע יכול להרגיש טוב? איך מגע רע, איתו, יכול להיות מאוד רע ואסור, אבל יכול להיות מאוד חיובי וטוב עם בעלי לעתיד? מדוע מגע טוב ובריא נדמה […]

This article on an Israeli Chabad news site is monumental

Last month, Aharon Shlomo Lisson (Lyson), a Chabad teacher from Beitar Illit, was sentenced to 7 years in prison for sexually abusing three brothers. That evening, his oldest victim, Yankie Rainitz, released a powerful post on Facebook which quickly went viral. (You can read a translated version of his Facebook post HERE)  The following day, […]

A survivor explains how seeking help is just the beginning

I’ve been feeling things, experiencing things, lately that have made me feel compelled to write. I’ve questioned what is going on inside my body and inside my head. My thoughts roam to places to I would rather they not. My body feels things I wish it would forget. I feel powerless to stop it. And […]

This Facebook post by a survivor has gone viral in Israel

Last week on Thursday (20 July), the Jerusalem District Court sentenced (Rabbi) Aharon Shlomo Lisson to a minimum of seven years for sexually abusing three brothers. Later that day, one of the courageous victims/survivors, Yaakov (Yankie) Rainitz, wrote a powerful public post in Hebrew about what transpired. The post quickly went viral in Israel where it was shared […]

Ahron Shlomo Lyson Sentenced to 7 Years for Sexually Abusing Three Brothers

Ynet News reports: Ahron Shlomo Lyson (Lisson), 34, from Beitar Illit, was sentenced Wednesday to seven years in prison and two years’ probation for sexually assaulting his students. Lyson was a teacher in Ohalei Menachem in Beitar Illit, and was convicted last December of sexually assaulting three brothers, aged 13-15. According to the indictment, in […]

5 of the 6 suspects in Tel Aviv Belz abuse case Sentenced

One year after six teachers from the Belz Cheder in Tel Aviv were charged with physical and sexually abusing 22 children aged 3 to 10, five of the teachers have been sentenced. Yisrael Haim Shapira, Haim Fishgrund, Moshe Hirsch, Menachem Albershtein and Avraham Pinchas Deitsch were sentenced to a varying lengths of suspended prison terms and community […]

Dorm counselor sexually abused girls in home for vulnerable children

Bechadrei Charedim Reports: A 23-year-old woman who served as a dorm counselor in a home for children from broken families was charged on Monday with sexually abusing two girls in her care. According to the charges, the suspect created an extremely close and dependent relationship with her victims – aged 11-12 and 14-16 – when […]

School driver sentenced to 5.5 years for sexual assault of 13-year-old

Nati Graz, a 50 year old haredi man from Ramat Sholom Jerusalem was sentenced on Sunday to 5.5 years in prison for sexually abusing a 13-year-old girl whom he drove daily to school. Graz also received 2-years probation and was ordered to pay 20,000 NIS restitution. Graz carefully groomed the girl over a an extended period […]

Haredi advertiser charged with sexually assaulting 6 employees

INN reports: A well-known haredi advertiser was indicted Sunday on charges of sexually assaulting six of his employees, the Kikar Hashabbat Hebrew news website reported. The indicted was filed in the Jerusalem District Court against Matityahu Ben-David, who served between 2011 and 2016 as the co-owner of an advertising agency called Media 1, abused his authority to […]

Rabbi Greer Seeks New Trial

The New Haven Independent reports: A prominent Edgewood rabbi is asking a court to throw out a $20 million verdict against him and order a new trial on sexual abuse allegations. Attorney David Grudberg filed the motion Wednesday in U.S. District Court on behalf of the rabbi, Daniel Greer. A federal jury last month awarded a […]

ISRAEL ALERT – Eliyahu Shafran has been added to the Wall of Shame – אליהו שפראן

  בשנת 2013 אליהו שפראן הואשם בבית משפט מחוזי בירושלים במספר אישומים של תקיפה מינית בקטינים, לאחר שהואשם בפגיעה במספר ילדות קטינות.   שפראןהיה סופר סת”ם ובעל תפקיד במטבח של בית הכנסת בקהילה לה השתייך, תפקידים אלו סייעו לו לקבל גישה לילדות הקטינות, הוא התחבר אליהן באמצעות שידול על ידי ממתקים ומתנות.   שפראן מרצה […]

[Video] An Abuse Prevention Expert Prepares Parents for Summer

On Monday June 26, JCW hosted renowned child safety expert Pattie Fitzgerald for a special Facebook Live seminar. Pattie delivered one hour of invaluable tips for parents preparing to send their children to camp. Watch a replay here and find more safety resources on Pattie’s website, sefelyeverafter.com

It took me more than 15 years to sit in the room with my abuser

I was abused when I was 12 years old. It took me more than 15 years to sit in the same room with the person that sexually abused me. The meeting was organized by JCW and its affiliates discreetly, professionally and just as importantly, sensitively for all parties involved. It is not likely that this […]

Like a butterfly – כמו פרפר

כמו פרפר   זחל רך וקטן. כחלק מסע חייו, הזחל מתכנס לתוך גולם למספר שבועות.. ויום אחד, הוא מוכן ורוצה לצאת לחופשי. הוא מנסה ודוחף.. הוא לא מרפה מהמאצים הקשים. בסוף הוא מצליח! יוצא הוא מהגולם. פרפר יפיפה, צבעוני עם כוחות מחודשים.   חיי. כשהייתי בת חמש, אני הרגשתי כמו הזחל הקטן. ילדה קטנה, תמימה […]

Seminary Teacher Raped 10’s of His Employees at Previous Job

Translated from this Israel Channel 2 report: A Jerusalem resident, who teaches in a girls seminary in central Israel, was arrested for raping young women, between the ages of 17-20, within the ultra-orthodox community, who he employed in his Jerusalem based office. Based on the reports given to the police, the victims were threatened by […]

הגוף שלי נברא בצלם אלוקים

My body was created in the image of God. My body was pure. My body was good, all of it was good. But suddenly he came in to my life. And he touched my body that belonged  to me! My body doesn’t feel pure anymore. My body isn’t what it used to be. It was […]

I didn’t want – לא רציתי

English Below לא רציתי את החיוך שלו. לא רציתי את העוגיות שלו. לא רציתי שהזכרונות ישארו. לא רציתי אותו בחיים שלי. בכלל. לא אהבתי את העיניים שלו, לא אהבתי ללכת לדירה שלו. לא אהבתי את תשומת הלב המיוחד שלו. לא אהבתי אותו. בכלל. שנאתי כשהוריד את הבגדים שלי. שנאתי שנגע בגוף הטהור שלי. שנאתי את […]

THIS is an abuse survivor’s number one fear

I have previously expounded on the some of the guilt and shame that accompanies survivors of child sexual abuse. I want to share a little more about how untreated shame and guilt can progress to the point where substance abuse and/or suicide seems like the only answer for survivors. One morning, when I was in […]