PREVENTION TIPS FOR PARENTS

Use the anatomically correct terms for private parts. Teach kids to use this language. Teach your child that it’s ok to say “no” to anyone whose actions make them feel weird, yucky, or uncomfortable. This applies even if it is an adult or an older kid that you know.  Give kids a few active responses they can say if […]

SUPPORTING A CHILD WITH A CLOSE RELATIVE IN PRISON

Should I tell a child when a close relative goes to prison?            All situations are different and there is no right or wrong answer when talking to a child about imprisonment, your personal circumstances can determine what is suitable. It is important to consider the following when talking to a […]

DEALING WITH THE MEDIA

Getting the story When deciding on whether to speak to a journalist you need to know what their motivation is for writing the piece. Usually they are after some kind of ‘story’ – something that is topical, interesting, new and surprising. It will either be for a news story or a longer story called a […]

UNDERSTANDING THE STRUGGLES OF THE FAMILIES OF OFFENDERS

THE OTHER SIDE OF THE STORY Hi to all. No disrespect aimed at the victims of crime whatsoever but I think that families of those who have committed crime get a rough deal all round too. My partner committed a serious offence last year when I was ready to give birth to our daughter. He […]

SURVIVORS OF INCEST ANONYMOUS

An Introduction to Survivors of Incest Anonymous (SIA) We welcome you to Survivors of Incest Anonymous and hope you will find here the hope, camaraderie, and recovery that we have been privileged to experience. We are a spiritual, self-help group of women and men, 18 years or older, who are guided by a set of […]

WHAT SHOULD I DO IF SOMEONE I KNOW IS A VICTIM OF INCEST?

Listen. One of the most important things that you can do for a victim is to listen to their story and believe them! Help keep the victim safe. This may mean different things depending on who you are and what your relationship is to the victim. There may be legal considerations. Depending on where you […]

HOW CAN I HELP A CHILD WHO HAS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS?

If you know a child and youth who demonstrates sexual behavior problems, you can help them to learn new healthy and safe behaviors. It’s important for parents and other caregiving adults to act promptly to address a young person’s sexual behaviors.  Treatment providers who specialize in children’s sexual behaviors can help both the child and […]

FORMER CHILD MOLESTER IS GLAD HE WAS CAUGHT

I am not a victim of this hideous crime. Much to my sorrow and that of my family, I am the offender. Ten years ago, I molested my sister. Betsy (not her real name) was only 11 at the time. I was 22. Betsy was too afraid to turn me in to the authorities, so […]

RELAPSE PREVENTION PLAN

A relapse prevention plan is designed to help someone from reoffending. It is written to explain how someone may end up reoffending and how this can be prevented. A relapse prevention plan is set up with several sections in order to make it easier to utilize and understand. The sections are listed below with a description. […]

IF YOU’RE ABUSING A CHILD, STOP!

We know that’s easier said than done. Just as survivors of child sexual abuse need support to move through their healing process, we know you need support to move through your process as well. Inappropriate sexual urges, thoughts, or behaviors relating to children indicates a serious health problem that requires medical attention. In very few cases […]

DO YOU NEED HELP?

Twelve Questions About Your Behavior Only You Can Answer If you are wondering about your own sexual thoughts and behaviors toward children, we encourage you to answer these questions honestly. They are designed to help you decide whether you may need help. Take a few minutes to ask yourself the following twelve questions. If you […]

WHAT IS SEX OFFENDER TREATMENT?

Sex offender treatment is different than other therapies for adults. Sex offender treatment is a serious and encouraging process which focuses on learning specialized strategies for stopping abusive behavior, being accountable and taking responsibility for harm done. For the vast majority of those adults and juveniles who have committed a sexual offense, treatment significantly reduces […]

HOW CAN I FIND CONFIDENTIAL HELP?

If you are concerned about your sexualized thoughts or behaviors towards children, you can call the Stop It Now! confidential, toll-free Helpline at 1.888.PREVENT (1.888.773.8368). No caller ID is used on this line. Check hours. For more than 15 years, Stop It Now! National Helpline has provided a confidential place for thousands of people to […]

ADVANTAGES OF COMING FORWARD IF YOU HAVE ABUSED SOMEONE

“I was in a lot of pain… My big concern was that nobody knew what I did. I didn’t want anybody to know I was a pedophile. I thought, ‘That’s the bottom of the totem pole,’ not realizing that the only way I was NOT going to be a pedophile for life was to get […]

HOW TO CHOOSE A COUNSELOR OR THERAPIST

If you are looking for a therapist, please check out JCW’s Find A Therapist page for assistance. It’s easy to find a counselor, but perhaps more difficult to know if you’ve found one who is right for you. There are a number of questions you can ask that will help you to choose a counselor. This short […]

ROYAL COMMISSION: OUR DARKEST WEEK

The Australian Jewish community has just witnessed one of its darkest weeks. I have covered child abuse in the Jewish community for several years but even I didn’t understand the extent of the cover-ups, the lies, the ignorance and ridiculous actions of Rabbis in our community. It’s time for us, as a community, to wake […]

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE SURVIVOR’S SELF ASSESSMENT

Whether you’re just beginning your healing journey or you’ve been working on it for a while, this self assessment tool naturally helps you create a plan for your healing process. Initially when you take the assessment, it will help you to acknowledge the many ways your experience of childhood sexual abuse has impacted your life. […]

BEST PRACTICES FOR SURVIVORS

There is no shortage of people who personally understand the impact of child sexual abuse. However, our community and individual silence serves to isolate us and may keep us from acknowledging the real impact, and from gaining the strength, resources and support we need to heal. But together we have a chance to experience freedom […]

FLASHBACKS: WHAT ARE THEY?

Flashbacks are memories of past traumas. They may take the form of pictures, sounds, smells, body sensations, feelings, or the lack of them (numbness). Many times there is no actual visual or auditory memory. One may have the sense of panic, being trapped, feeling powerless with no memory stimulating it. These experiences can also happen […]

SELF-CARE FOR SURVIVORS

Good self-care is a challenge for many people and it can be especially challenging for survivors of rape, sexual assault, incest and sexual abuse. It can also be an important part of the healing process. Physical self-care is an area that people often overlook: Food Food is a type of self-care that people often overlook. […]

SUICIDE: IF YOU ARE HAVING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS

If you are currently thinking about suicide, please reach out for help! Talk to someone you trust. – Do you have a friend or relative that you can talk to? Do you have a counselor or therapist that you can call? Is there someone else in your life that you can talk to (a religious leader, coach or […]

PARTNERS OF ABUSED

This is a handbook that is written for all husbands and partners of women who were sexually abused/assaulted as children. It is to be used to help understand the long range effects of this abuse and to help both the partner and survivor through the recovery process. This handbook focuses on women who were abused/assaulted, but many […]

WHAT WE WOULD LIKE YOU TO KNOW ABOUT US

1. We grew up feeling very isolated and vulnerable, a feeling that continues into our adult lives. 2. Our early development has been interrupted by abuse which either holds us back or pushes us ahead developmentally. 3. Sexual abuse has influenced all parts of our lives. Not dealing with it is like ignoring an open […]