WHEN YOU LOVE THEM BOTH (VICTIM AND ABUSER)

Feeling caught in a loyalty bind If you’re the non-offending parent of a child who has been abused by a sibling or by the other parent, you can find yourself caught in a painful bind. As a loving parent, you want to do everything in your power to protect the abused child, keep them safe, […]

POSSIBLE REACTIONS OF NON-OFFENDING PARENTS AND CARING ADULTS

Following a disclosure, reactions can vary greatly for non-offending parents and other protective adults. You may feel surprised by some of your thoughts and feelings and might find it difficult to share them with others. Below are some of the feelings that many parents and caring adults experience after receiving a disclosure of sexual abuse […]

TIPS FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY OF ABUSE SURVIVOR

If a friend or family member tells you he or she was sexually abused, please consider the importance of your role in the healing process. Disbelief or disinterest from loved ones can intensify or prolong trauma from abuse. It is emotionally overwhelming when someone you love and trust doesn’t believe you or doesn’t care that […]

SELF-CARE FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS

When someone that you care about tells you that they have been a victim of sexual assault or sexual abuse, it can be difficult. You may have a range of reactions that could include: Shock You may be very surprised to hear what has happened. You might have difficulty figuring out how to respond. Anger […]

IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS THINKING ABOUT SUICIDE

How will I know if someone is having suicidal thoughts? People who are thinking about suicide often give clues that they are having suicidal thoughts. They might: Stop doing activities that they usually enjoy Start pulling away from people that they are close to Give away treasured possessions Start preparing for death, which might mean […]

TIPS FOR HELPING A PARTNER HEAL

Healing needs to be done on the survivor’s terms. It is imperative that you do not push her or force her to do things before either of you is ready. There is no timeline for healing, so it is important that you remain patient and support each other through the healing process. Note: Although the […]

RABBI TOLD CHILD SEX ABUSE VICTIM TO ‘LET IT GO’, ROYAL COMMISSION TOLD

Republished from the TheGuardian A senior religious figure within the orthodox Jewish community, rabbi Baruch Lesches, told a child sex abuse victim that “the proper, clever thing to do” about the abuse “would be to let it go”. The victim, identified only as AVB, told the royal commission into institutional responses to child sex abuse […]

EX-N.Y. JEWISH DAY SCHOOL TEACHER BUSTED ON CHILD PORN CHARGES

Republished from the JTA A rabbi and a former Judaic studies teacher in Westchester County, N.Y., has been arrested and charged with receiving and possessing child pornography. Lyle Kamlet, 62, is alleged to have purchased illegal DVDs over the Internet and to have had them mailed to Westchester Day School, a co-ed Modern Orthodox school […]