BEST PRACTICES FOR SURVIVORS

There is no shortage of people who personally understand the impact of child sexual abuse. However, our community and individual silence serves to isolate us and may keep us from acknowledging the real impact, and from gaining the strength, resources and support we need to heal. But together we have a chance to experience freedom […]

FLASHBACKS: WHAT ARE THEY?

Flashbacks are memories of past traumas. They may take the form of pictures, sounds, smells, body sensations, feelings, or the lack of them (numbness). Many times there is no actual visual or auditory memory. One may have the sense of panic, being trapped, feeling powerless with no memory stimulating it. These experiences can also happen […]

SELF-CARE FOR SURVIVORS

Good self-care is a challenge for many people and it can be especially challenging for survivors of rape, sexual assault, incest and sexual abuse. It can also be an important part of the healing process. Physical self-care is an area that people often overlook: Food Food is a type of self-care that people often overlook. […]

SUICIDE: IF YOU ARE HAVING SUICIDAL THOUGHTS

If you are currently thinking about suicide, please reach out for help! Talk to someone you trust. – Do you have a friend or relative that you can talk to? Do you have a counselor or therapist that you can call? Is there someone else in your life that you can talk to (a religious leader, coach or […]

PARTNERS OF ABUSED

This is a handbook that is written for all husbands and partners of women who were sexually abused/assaulted as children. It is to be used to help understand the long range effects of this abuse and to help both the partner and survivor through the recovery process. This handbook focuses on women who were abused/assaulted, but many […]

WHAT WE WOULD LIKE YOU TO KNOW ABOUT US

1. We grew up feeling very isolated and vulnerable, a feeling that continues into our adult lives. 2. Our early development has been interrupted by abuse which either holds us back or pushes us ahead developmentally. 3. Sexual abuse has influenced all parts of our lives. Not dealing with it is like ignoring an open […]

WHEN YOU LOVE THEM BOTH (VICTIM AND ABUSER)

Feeling caught in a loyalty bind If you’re the non-offending parent of a child who has been abused by a sibling or by the other parent, you can find yourself caught in a painful bind. As a loving parent, you want to do everything in your power to protect the abused child, keep them safe, […]

POSSIBLE REACTIONS OF NON-OFFENDING PARENTS AND CARING ADULTS

Following a disclosure, reactions can vary greatly for non-offending parents and other protective adults. You may feel surprised by some of your thoughts and feelings and might find it difficult to share them with others. Below are some of the feelings that many parents and caring adults experience after receiving a disclosure of sexual abuse […]

TIPS FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY OF ABUSE SURVIVOR

If a friend or family member tells you he or she was sexually abused, please consider the importance of your role in the healing process. Disbelief or disinterest from loved ones can intensify or prolong trauma from abuse. It is emotionally overwhelming when someone you love and trust doesn’t believe you or doesn’t care that […]

SELF-CARE FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS

When someone that you care about tells you that they have been a victim of sexual assault or sexual abuse, it can be difficult. You may have a range of reactions that could include: Shock You may be very surprised to hear what has happened. You might have difficulty figuring out how to respond. Anger […]

IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS THINKING ABOUT SUICIDE

How will I know if someone is having suicidal thoughts? People who are thinking about suicide often give clues that they are having suicidal thoughts. They might: Stop doing activities that they usually enjoy Start pulling away from people that they are close to Give away treasured possessions Start preparing for death, which might mean […]

TIPS FOR HELPING A PARTNER HEAL

Healing needs to be done on the survivor’s terms. It is imperative that you do not push her or force her to do things before either of you is ready. There is no timeline for healing, so it is important that you remain patient and support each other through the healing process. Note: Although the […]

MYTHS VS FACTS

Most people’s beliefs have been shaped by common misconceptions and popular myths about this hidden crime. Societal acceptance of these myths assists sex offenders by silencing victims and encouraging public denial about the true nature of sexual ass

WHAT IS CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE?

Most people’s beliefs have been shaped by common misconceptions and popular myths about this hidden crime. Societal acceptance of these myths assists sex offenders by silencing victims and encouraging public denial about the true nature of sexual ass

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE STATISTICS

Child sexual abuse is also a significantly under-reported crime that is difficult to prove and prosecute. Most perpetrators of child molestation, incest and child rape are never identified and caught