WHY CHILDREN DON’T TELL

There are a myriad of reasons why children don’t tell, but almost always, an abuser must mentally and emotionally brainwash a child in order to perpetrate. It can be heartbreaking to learn what abusers say and make children think during the abuse. The child may not be old enough to understand that they are being […]

HOW CAN I HELP A CHILD WHO HAS SEXUAL BEHAVIOR PROBLEMS?

If you know a child and youth who demonstrates sexual behavior problems, you can help them to learn new healthy and safe behaviors. It’s important for parents and other caregiving adults to act promptly to address a young person’s sexual behaviors.  Treatment providers who specialize in children’s sexual behaviors can help both the child and […]

PARTNERS OF ABUSED

This is a handbook that is written for all husbands and partners of women who were sexually abused/assaulted as children. It is to be used to help understand the long range effects of this abuse and to help both the partner and survivor through the recovery process. This handbook focuses on women who were abused/assaulted, but many […]

WHAT WE WOULD LIKE YOU TO KNOW ABOUT US

1. We grew up feeling very isolated and vulnerable, a feeling that continues into our adult lives. 2. Our early development has been interrupted by abuse which either holds us back or pushes us ahead developmentally. 3. Sexual abuse has influenced all parts of our lives. Not dealing with it is like ignoring an open […]

WHEN YOU LOVE THEM BOTH (VICTIM AND ABUSER)

Feeling caught in a loyalty bind If you’re the non-offending parent of a child who has been abused by a sibling or by the other parent, you can find yourself caught in a painful bind. As a loving parent, you want to do everything in your power to protect the abused child, keep them safe, […]

POSSIBLE REACTIONS OF NON-OFFENDING PARENTS AND CARING ADULTS

Following a disclosure, reactions can vary greatly for non-offending parents and other protective adults. You may feel surprised by some of your thoughts and feelings and might find it difficult to share them with others. Below are some of the feelings that many parents and caring adults experience after receiving a disclosure of sexual abuse […]

TIPS FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY OF ABUSE SURVIVOR

If a friend or family member tells you he or she was sexually abused, please consider the importance of your role in the healing process. Disbelief or disinterest from loved ones can intensify or prolong trauma from abuse. It is emotionally overwhelming when someone you love and trust doesn’t believe you or doesn’t care that […]

SELF-CARE FOR FRIENDS AND FAMILY MEMBERS

When someone that you care about tells you that they have been a victim of sexual assault or sexual abuse, it can be difficult. You may have a range of reactions that could include: Shock You may be very surprised to hear what has happened. You might have difficulty figuring out how to respond. Anger […]

IF SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS THINKING ABOUT SUICIDE

How will I know if someone is having suicidal thoughts? People who are thinking about suicide often give clues that they are having suicidal thoughts. They might: Stop doing activities that they usually enjoy Start pulling away from people that they are close to Give away treasured possessions Start preparing for death, which might mean […]

TIPS FOR HELPING A PARTNER HEAL

Healing needs to be done on the survivor’s terms. It is imperative that you do not push her or force her to do things before either of you is ready. There is no timeline for healing, so it is important that you remain patient and support each other through the healing process. Note: Although the […]