WHAT A PREDATOR LOOKS FOR

When interviewed, convicted child sex-offenders admitted to being very particular about the children they chose to abuse. They looked for children that were loners or seemed less-confident and in need of attention/affection/love. They exploited this need, showing interest, making the child feel loved, and in turn used that emotional connection to perpetrate their bodies. The […]

AGE-APPROPRIATE SEXUAL BEHAVIOR

It can be hard to acknowledge that all of us, even children, are sexual beings, have sexual feelings and are curious about sex and sexuality. Children’s curiosity can lead to exploring their own and each other’s body parts by looking and touching. They may peek when family members are in the bathroom or changing clothes […]

CHILDREN THAT ABUSE

This may be one of the biggest reality-checking curveballs regarding child sexual abuse: Who would have ever thought that up to 40% of abusers were older or more powerful children? Generally, an age difference of 3 years or more is enough for the older child to be aware that what he/she is doing is wrong. […]

WOMEN THAT ABUSE

It is hard to get solid statistical evidence to support just how often it happens because so many victims abused by women tell much less than those abused by men. Many victims don’t think people will believe them. Many don’t realize they were being abused until they are older. Although limited research exists, it is suggested […]

ABUSE WITHIN THE FAMILY UNIT – INCEST

Incest is allowed to thrive when people lack the fortitude to accept that it exists. The attitude that it happens in “other” families but couldn’t happen in our own, puts children at risk. It could involve grooming or not, because most often the sense of trust, affection, and love have already been established between the […]

ABUSERS NEED OPPORTUNITY

In most cases, abusers seek or take advantage of being in a position of trust in a one-on-one situation with a child: a bedroom, a bathroom, a car, a place out of view of other people.They either happen upon an opportunity or they need you to trust them alone with your child. Many may offer to […]

WHAT TO LOOK FOR

This is what you can look for to potentially identify grooming behaviors of sexual abusers of children. This applies not only to your children, but even for friends/relatives. You may see behavior that the child’s parent may miss or fall prey to. But keep in mind that seeing these signs does NOT mean this person […]

GROOMING

Groomers are patient. They’re often intelligent, friendly, and helpful. They don’t want to get caught – but they may push the limit to see how much they can get away with without being caught. They seek to establish an abusive relationship with a child that will be repetitive.Predatory offenders, especially, are invested in their pursuit […]

MOTIVATION TO OFFEND

We may never have the exact answer what specifically drives offenders, and no two predators think and act alike. While pedophiles are specifically driven by sexual-attraction to children, non-pedophilic perpetrators may be motivated by:  A sense of excitement and satisfaction in grooming and manipulating not only the child they’re abusing, but even in deceiving the […]

PREDATORY OFFENDERS VS “OPPORTUNISTIC” PREDATORS

Many predatory abusers premeditate abuse, fantasize about sexual interaction with children, often view pornography or child pornography, select their victims carefully, and invest effort and time to groom them into submission. They prefer children, not necessarily because of sexual attraction but because of their vulnerability and ability to manipulate. Opportunistic offenders acknowledge an opportunity that […]

THERE IS NO STEREOTYPE FOR OFFENDERS

They can be the most educated, the most good-looking, the rich, the do-gooders. Women and children too. Perhaps naturally, or even through media outlets (tv, movies etc), we come to think of sexual predators as these sneaky, sleazy characters. If that were the case, kids wouldn’t be at as great of a risk. We could more […]