Weiss Victim: He identified me as his prey

Victim Impact Statement Menachem M. Weiss sentencing, September 9, 2019 I never thought this day would come. 20 years ago, my parents entrusted me to the home and expertise of the man then known as Rabbi Menachem Mendel Weiss, of Woodcliff Lake, NJ. I lived in his house, with his family, across the country from […]

Rabbi Menachem (Mendy) Weiss pleads guilty to 1999 sexual abuse

Today, Menachem (Mendy) Weiss of Los Angeles pled guilty to aggravated sexual assault of a minor in New Jersey with the prosecution recommending a six-year prison sentence and that Weiss be registered as a sex offender.  On March 20, 2018, Weiss was charged with two counts of aggravated sexual assault in the first degree, after […]

Here’s what it was like to finally confront my abuser

Confronting my abuser was a powerful and therapeutic experience. Even though I felt nervous, scared and petrified in the beginning, it was worth every single second. Confronting my abuser gave me an incredible amount of closure. Closer that I needed so badly. By confronting my abuser I got so much peace of mind. By confronting […]

A victim’s shame

Shame.  The shame that I’m feeling is so intensely strong. It was born on that dreadful day. The day when I first met him.  The day when the spark in my soul was extinguished.  The day that I no longer owned my body. The day in which my body became a pleasure machine for him.  […]

I was in an accident – and nobody stopped to help

Dear friends,  I was in a terrible car accident yesterday. I was not at fault and didn’t see the car coming. It happened so quickly. My car spun around and was completely totaled. It was smoking and burst into flames. I somehow managed to break open a window and crawl out, bruised and bleeding. I […]

Serial child rapist arrested 20 years later

Jimmy Julius (Yosef Chaim) Karow, 48 was indicted on numerous charges this Wednesday after JCW investigators tracked the wanted child rapist down to a medical clinic in Rishon Lezion. Karow fled the United States over 20 years ago as police were closing in on him for child sexual abuse but was arrested again in Israel […]

Researchers are using AI to detect sexual abuse – your help needed

Haifa University and Anima-ey are in the process of developing an Artificial Intelligence (AI) system to detect sexual abuse experiences among children and youth. This project is an important one with powerful potential implications for detection (and early intervention) of CSA. They are seeking members of the general public to participate in this important research […]

This is my humble prayer

Three decades ago. I’m not even eight years old. I’m in the hospital recovering from an illness. A nurse comes in and takes it upon herself to expose me to sexuality. Until then, I was blissfully sheltered. You see, in our community sexuality is an untouchable subject for adolescents. Let alone for young children. But […]

I am a victim of abuse. Why do I feel guilty?

One of the deepest and most painful effects of abuse is the guilt that stays with me. Unfortunately, even though I would really like to get rid of that guilt, it still haunts me to this day. Every day I try and try to let it go, but I can’t seem to do it.  As […]

A child sexual abuse survivor’s Eicha

אל אלא אני בוכיה Every tisha bav I sit on the floor. I cry for עם ישראל and I cry for my own personal galus. Thrown out because I was sexually abused and nobody wanted to believe it.  איכה ישבה בדד… Alas, she sits in solitude בכו תבכה בלילה ודמעתה על לחיה…. She weeps bitterly in the night […]

What I mourn on Tisha Bav

I mourn the loss of control on my body I mourn the loss of my childhood I mourn the loss of my teen years I mourn the loss of joy I mourn the loss of happiness I mourn the loss of peace I mourn the loss of self I mourn the loss of trust I […]

Jerusalem grandfather arrested for abusing three granddaughters

A 67-year-old Charedi grandfather is suspected of sexually abusing three of his granddaughters. The unnamed Jerusalem resident was arrested yesterday and is scheduled to appear in court today.  According to a Hebrew report in Kikar Shabbat, the abuse occurred about a year and a half ago for a period of about a year. The victims are […]

Is all child sexual abuse equal?

By Shana Aaronson, director of JCW-Israel Unless you live under a rock, over the last week you have heard this horrific news of the rape of a 7 year old girl by an Arab janitor in her school. You have read this article and tens of others like it; you have read every disgusting horrible […]

‘I was abused at 5 – then I was shunned’

This is the first time I am publicly speaking in decades about my experiences and even though this is anonymous, I am petrified. I am scared of repurcussions, I am scared somebody might work out who I am, I am fighting the inner feeling of wanting to hide behind a big piece of furniture and […]

As an incest survivor, here’s what I think about

Dear world, This is what it’s like to be in my body. I think of all the secrets that I have that I can’t just say because it is not normal things. I think about how I have been treated. I think about how my brain has been so manipulated. I think about how my […]

‘Today I went back to the site of my abuse’

To my Abuser I’ve reached a new and very special milestone today. I got to a place in which I thought I’ll never get to. It was so meaningful and so emotional at the same time. It was a moment of immense pain, yet at the same time I was overwhelmed with gratitude to God […]

Midwood resident arrested for child porn and other charges

Last week on April 4th, Alexander (Aly) Mayer was arrested by the FBI after an undercover operation revealed that Mayer had possessed and distributed child pornography. The criminal complaint against Mayer details that for the last six months, Mayer corresponded with an undercover officer who he believed to be the father of a 9 year […]

‘I just saw my abuser at a Simcha’

I just saw you! You. You, who robbed my life. You, who stole my peace of mind. You, who hurt me and burned me. You, who extinguished the flame in my soul. You, who appeared in so many of my nightmares. You, who changed my life forever. You, who I am disgusted and sick from. You, who caused me indescribable pain. […]

NJ therapist Elliot Halberstam sentenced to 13 years for abusing client

In 2015, the FBI arrested and charged New Jersey- based therapist Elliot Halberstam with three counts of sexual enticement and exploitation of a minor and receipt of child pornography. The arrest was widely reported at the time. The charges alleged that Halberstam had groomed one of his clients, then a 16 year old boy, who he had been seeing […]

Sitting at the shore of the Atlantic Ocean

I’m Sitting at the shore of the Atlantic Ocean after an extremely painful therapy session. I once again went deeply into the most traumatic part of my life. The part in which I never wanted to face out of fear of falling apart. The part that I have nightmares about. The part which causes me […]

Job Opening: Victim Advocate in NYC

Position Title:            Victim Advocate Department/Division:        Investigative Services Reports to:            Chief Operating Officer Status:                Full-Time/Exempt Location:            New York, New York   Job Summary The Victim Advocate collects and gathers information from victims and other community members regarding alleged abusers in an effort to assist in building […]

Why did an abuser have so many supporters in court?

I just came home from the final court case of a victim of sexual abuse. The beautiful and brave victim got up to speak as well as some other family members. Following that, the abuser spoke as well as his lawyers. There were many people in the court room who came to support the abuser. […]

Williamsburg Man Sentenced for Abusing Child in Synagogue on Yom Kippur

In September 2017, Williamsburg resident Joseph Grunwald was arrested for molesting a 7-year-old girl in a synagogue on Yom Kippur, and charged with 3 misdemeanor counts of forcible touching of intimate parts, acting in a manner injurious to a child, and felony sexual contact with a child under 11. Following the indictment, Grunwald reoffended, molesting […]