JCW event at the perfect moment

Whenever we offer educational events, we expect lots of questions from parents and teachers in the room. But as anyone who has ever run a child safety event can tell you, it’s not just questions about education. These events are forums where survivors often come forward to share their experiences (sometimes for the first time) […]

Today I just cry

I am sitting here a shell of a person, bleeding from wounds that I thought were long healed. For so long I thought that I was moving forward but in a family of incest and dysfunction, somehow, I keep getting pulled back in; Allowing myself to be victimized over and over in hopes that maybe […]

Beautiful Yom Kippur story for survivors

There was once a family, not long ago, that had the most wonderful parents and seven beautiful children. Life for both the children and the parents was that of a dream family. Suddenly, one Shabbos afternoon, without any warning, tragedy struck and the mother collapsed. Hatzalah was quickly called and despite their many desperate attempts […]

The death of a sexual abuse victim

Dear readers, Please sit back and close your eyes while I walk you through my life. The “life of a sexual abuse victim”. I say “life” only because I’m physically alive but in truth, a more accurate term would be “the death of a sexual abuse victim”.  Let’s take a walk to the school in […]

Lawsuit: Rabbi who abused is now principal in Lakewood

According to the New York Post, Rabbi Joel Falk is named by a former Yeshiva Torah Temimah student in a new lawsuit, one of the first against a rabbi under New York’s Child Victims Act. Baruch Sandhaus, now 52, claims Falk “would inappropriately touch” his penis in 1980, shortly after he started ninth grade at age 13, […]

Weiss Victim: He identified me as his prey

Victim Impact Statement Menachem M. Weiss sentencing, September 9, 2019 I never thought this day would come. 20 years ago, my parents entrusted me to the home and expertise of the man then known as Rabbi Menachem Mendel Weiss, of Woodcliff Lake, NJ. I lived in his house, with his family, across the country from […]

Rabbi Menachem (Mendy) Weiss pleads guilty to 1999 sexual abuse

Today, Menachem (Mendy) Weiss of Los Angeles pled guilty to aggravated sexual assault of a minor in New Jersey with the prosecution recommending a six-year prison sentence and that Weiss be registered as a sex offender.  On March 20, 2018, Weiss was charged with two counts of aggravated sexual assault in the first degree, after […]

I was in an accident – and nobody stopped to help

Dear friends,  I was in a terrible car accident yesterday. I was not at fault and didn’t see the car coming. It happened so quickly. My car spun around and was completely totaled. It was smoking and burst into flames. I somehow managed to break open a window and crawl out, bruised and bleeding. I […]

Serial child rapist arrested 20 years later

Jimmy Julius (Yosef Chaim) Karow, 48 was indicted on numerous charges this Wednesday after JCW investigators tracked the wanted child rapist down to a medical clinic in Rishon Lezion. Karow fled the United States over 20 years ago as police were closing in on him for child sexual abuse but was arrested again in Israel […]

Researchers are using AI to detect sexual abuse – your help needed

Haifa University and Anima-ey are in the process of developing an Artificial Intelligence (AI) system to detect sexual abuse experiences among children and youth. This project is an important one with powerful potential implications for detection (and early intervention) of CSA. They are seeking members of the general public to participate in this important research […]

This is my humble prayer

Three decades ago. I’m not even eight years old. I’m in the hospital recovering from an illness. A nurse comes in and takes it upon herself to expose me to sexuality. Until then, I was blissfully sheltered. You see, in our community sexuality is an untouchable subject for adolescents. Let alone for young children. But […]

I am a victim of abuse. Why do I feel guilty?

One of the deepest and most painful effects of abuse is the guilt that stays with me. Unfortunately, even though I would really like to get rid of that guilt, it still haunts me to this day. Every day I try and try to let it go, but I can’t seem to do it.  As […]

A child sexual abuse survivor’s Eicha

אל אלא אני בוכיה Every tisha bav I sit on the floor. I cry for עם ישראל and I cry for my own personal galus. Thrown out because I was sexually abused and nobody wanted to believe it.  איכה ישבה בדד… Alas, she sits in solitude בכו תבכה בלילה ודמעתה על לחיה…. She weeps bitterly in the night […]

What I mourn on Tisha Bav

I mourn the loss of control on my body I mourn the loss of my childhood I mourn the loss of my teen years I mourn the loss of joy I mourn the loss of happiness I mourn the loss of peace I mourn the loss of self I mourn the loss of trust I […]

Is all child sexual abuse equal?

By Shana Aaronson, director of JCW-Israel Unless you live under a rock, over the last week you have heard this horrific news of the rape of a 7 year old girl by an Arab janitor in her school. You have read this article and tens of others like it; you have read every disgusting horrible […]

‘I was abused at 5 – then I was shunned’

This is the first time I am publicly speaking in decades about my experiences and even though this is anonymous, I am petrified. I am scared of repurcussions, I am scared somebody might work out who I am, I am fighting the inner feeling of wanting to hide behind a big piece of furniture and […]

As an incest survivor, here’s what I think about

Dear world, This is what it’s like to be in my body. I think of all the secrets that I have that I can’t just say because it is not normal things. I think about how I have been treated. I think about how my brain has been so manipulated. I think about how my […]

‘Today I went back to the site of my abuse’

To my Abuser I’ve reached a new and very special milestone today. I got to a place in which I thought I’ll never get to. It was so meaningful and so emotional at the same time. It was a moment of immense pain, yet at the same time I was overwhelmed with gratitude to God […]

‘I just saw my abuser at a Simcha’

I just saw you! You. You, who robbed my life. You, who stole my peace of mind. You, who hurt me and burned me. You, who extinguished the flame in my soul. You, who appeared in so many of my nightmares. You, who changed my life forever. You, who I am disgusted and sick from. You, who caused me indescribable pain. […]

NJ therapist Elliot Halberstam sentenced to 13 years for abusing client

In 2015, the FBI arrested and charged New Jersey- based therapist Elliot Halberstam with three counts of sexual enticement and exploitation of a minor and receipt of child pornography. The arrest was widely reported at the time. The charges alleged that Halberstam had groomed one of his clients, then a 16 year old boy, who he had been seeing […]

Sitting at the shore of the Atlantic Ocean

I’m Sitting at the shore of the Atlantic Ocean after an extremely painful therapy session. I once again went deeply into the most traumatic part of my life. The part in which I never wanted to face out of fear of falling apart. The part that I have nightmares about. The part which causes me […]

Job Opening: Victim Advocate in NYC

Position Title:            Victim Advocate Department/Division:        Investigative Services Reports to:            Chief Operating Officer Status:                Full-Time/Exempt Location:            New York, New York   Job Summary The Victim Advocate collects and gathers information from victims and other community members regarding alleged abusers in an effort to assist in building […]