In most cases, abusers seek or take advantage of being in a position of trust in a one-on-one situation with a child: a bedroom, a bathroom, a car, a place out of view of other people.They either happen upon an opportunity or they need you to trust them alone with your child. Many may offer to babysit, tutor, give them a ride home, or take them out, or be a coach running a practice, a youth leader on a retreat, a camp counselor or other peer, a boyfriend or girlfriend alone or at a party. And unfortunately, they can even be your spouse, or part of your immediate or extended family. They may be living or coming into your own home when you’re there or when you’re not not. They may also be a neighbor looking for help – raking leaves, moving boxes etc., or an older/larger peer that may or may not be a friend of your child and invites him to play video games or check out a new pet.
Some abusers may:
  • Be socially awkward, not knowing how to appropriately behave
  • Have psychological issues
  • Believe they have special rights or privileges
  • Be undergoing a stressful time in their life (unemployment, failing relationship, death in the family, etc.)
  • Abuse alcohol, drugs, or other substances


Sections on this page have been adapted from TheMamaBearEffect.

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